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I must confess, I laughed when I saw that Maria Shriver has come out with a book called, Ten Things I Wish I Had Known Before Going Into The Real World. The real world? Come on, she grew up a Kennedy and married the biggest action movie star of all time! That aside, it got me to thinking: What are ten things I wish I would have known before going out into the real world? So, here they are: Life isn’t fair. You know, your mother always told you this but as kids we never believe it. We think that somehow mom was two tacos short of a combo plate and that eventually we will go into the real world and show her how those who work hard and do right always do come out on top. Then after about five years we become disenchanted and start to smell the coffee. Life isn’t fair! Why didn’t anybody tell me that? I guess they did, didn’t they? Unfortunately, sometimes the bad guys wins. Sometimes people die early. We shouldn’t take this lightly, but we must be realists. While we accept what comes our way, we still strive to work hard, dream big, and do right. People play favorites. It is true that it isn’t what you know but who you know that counts. This is because people play favorites. Sometimes it doesn’t matter that you are the best person or have the lowest bid. People will regularly cut deals with people they like or who can scratch their back in return. I guess the lesson to learn is that while we strive to achieve much and have excellent skills, we should also develop a strong network of healthy relationships. People will let you down. Being a person who does what he says can be a blessing and a curse. It is a blessing because I am able to look at myself in the mirror each day. It is a curse because if you are like that, you will most likely expect that from others and yet they will regularly let you down. People can be bad at keeping their word or doing what is right. I could have relieved a lot of emotional stress if I would have known this one before getting out into the real world. Not everybody wants to grow personally. I just assumed that everybody loved to learn and to grow. I thought everybody wanted to get better at what they did. The reality is, however, that most people do not. That is why there is something that we call average. Most people want to stay where they are. That is why they do. Those who strive to go forward will always be cutting against the grain and will often be resented, even if quietly, for it. The stock market goes down sometimes. Some of you older folks knew this. But us young whippersnappers, we have been riding it high on the hog for a while. This is good in a sense, but unless you have some common sense of how financial markets work, you can get quite a shock from time to time. You see, before you get into the real world, everything gets handed to you and you really don’t have to work for much. Then you do and you think that every investment will turn out grand whoops! The older you get, the harder it is to lose weight. I was always a little pudgy. Nothing big, just not like the cover guys of Men’s Health Magazine (You know, the ones that say “Six-pack abs in 20 minutes a day.” I think that means they only eat twenty minutes a day, and it is usually stewed vegetables! But I digress). If I would have known better, I would have worked harder when I was younger to keep the weight off so I wouldn’t have to work that much harder now! Marriage is work. A good marriage is more work. When you are young you think, “I’ll find the girl of my dreams and we’ll live happily ever after.” Well, hello! You forget that your spouse is human and you are too, most of the time! To live under the same roof with someone and to work out likes and dislikes, personalities, and schedules, not to mention life goals and the like is HARD WORK! Not drudgery, just work. Yes, there will be plenty of bliss and joy, but marriage will make you work for it! It takes longer to get out of debt than to get into it. I have never really had much debt. I did take out student loans to pay for school and wow, do they take a long time to get out of. Fortunately I have them paid off but for a while there, it was one of the big checks we wrote every month. Many people think credit cards are great because they can have what they want when they want it. Too bad they don’t realize that twenty minutes of shopping ecstasy will result in months or years of payments. It doesn’t work to try to please others. I have always wanted people to like me. Many times, I wanted them to like me too much. That isn’t good. This doesn’t work because I realized that most of the time, people liking or disliking you has nothing to do whatsoever with rational thought. Some people will dislike you, no matter how well you have done, and others will love you, warts and all. So I do my best and let the chips fall where they may now. You need to tend to your spiritual, emotional, and physical health or you will crash hard. If you don’t take time for yourself, both inwardly and outwardly, your body will catch up with you. You can take time for yourself by choice or not. It is much more fun by choice! Life is hard and it can and will weigh you down. We need to tend the fires of spirit and mind while keeping our physical bodies tuned for success as well. If not, our bodies break down. Bonus: In spite of the above, life is very much worth it! Some of the above may seem like bummers. They aren’t the “positive” things we like to focus on, but they are true. Being positive doesn’t mean sticking your head in the ground in order to avoid the negative of life. What it means is that we are realists who understand the negative aspects of life and choose to be optimists instead. We deal with the negative and pursue the positive. That is why I can say that life is worth living no matter how expensive or painful the lessons I have had to learn have been. Life is good and I can make it better! So I had to learn some lessons AFTER I got into the real world. So what? At least I learned them and can live the rest of my life to the fullest from now on! I hope you can too! MY THOUGHTS The article is critical. It remind me that the world is not peaceful everywhere, most of the time, people are not equal. Mr. Daly, thank you a lot for this life-beneficial article!
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ARTICLE Scoring 100% in Time Management BY FRANCIS WADE Excellent school Exam grade “Most people who attempt to learn a new time management system fail.” I can’t prove the above statement with hard facts, but I have a sense that it’s true, based on my personal experience and observations. If success is defined as 100% successful implementation, then that statistic is most certainly true. On the other hand, perhaps 99% of the people who take a time management program put down the book, or drive back home, agreeing with 100% of the ideas. So, the million dollar question is: what’s the problem? Did the time management gurus blind them with their brilliance? Or does it prove that we are all a bunch of lazy good-for-nothings with short attention spans, suffering from various degrees of ADHD? The problem is not something that’s addressed by the gurus, and it’s actually something that is being ignored by gurus and devotees alike. It’s a problem in what we think time management IS. Learning a new time management system is not like learning differential calculus, financial accounting or particle physics. Each of these subject-areas are new to most people, who typically come to them like a blank canvas, and without any homegrown capability whatsoever. Most of us haven’t figured out our own system of computing depreciation before stepping into accounting 101. Ironically, our ignorance helps.. A new system of thinking is easier to learn when it’s completely fresh to us, and only requires us to be ready, willing and able. Learning a new approach to time management is much more difficult, because standing in the way of a shiny new system is the one that we are already using. That’s the same one we first put together when we entered high school, refined when we were in college, adapted when we got our first job, and started suffered with when we got married and found a bunch of stuff falling through the cracks for the first time. That’s “the time management system we never knew we had.” (For some of us, calling it a system might be too much of a mental leap, but it’s tough to get through college without having put something in place.) This “system we never knew we had” is comprised of habits, practices and rituals that have been practiced over the years and are now built into our neuro-muscular systems. In this sense, we are more like smokers trying to quit some dangerous behaviors, than we are mathematicians learning some brand new techniques. Ask President Obama, or any smoker, and they’ll tell you… quitting is tough. But time management gurus don’t tell you that changing the habits that make up your current time management system is just as challenging. They don’t get you to appreciate what you are up against as you try to reverse decades of practice, reinforced by some positive results that convinced your subconscious that you had this time management thing beaten. Not only don’t you know all this, but most people try to learn a new time management system when they KNOW that their system is no longer successful. As you ponder your latest failure, you are driven crazy with desire for the new system being offered that seems to be so logical, sensible and easy to understand. This only adds to the frustration. It appears to be easy, but isn’t. Here’s a concept: Forget about learning a new time management system, and instead take a program in “Habit Changing 101.” Discover the unique set of actions you must take to change your ingrained habits so that they stay changed. Figure out the unique blend of goal-setting, community support, backup plans, rewards, punishments, reminders, coaching, etc. that you need to succeed. Once your special cocktail is figured out, then take any time management program that you want, implement the changes slowly (one habit at a time,) and take enough time to ensure that you won’t lapse into the old habits when the inevitable crises hit. You may still be failing to implement THEIR system the way it “should” be done, but you’ll be 100% effective at upgrading your own. MY THOUGHTS Learning time control is not easy, but I the key is not limiting yourself. Once you find passion to do something, you can achieve your goal.
We always see news about success people, and sometimes, we thought life is unfair. But what we think is not true. We only see people's success, but we cannot see what they have done to make them successful. So, stop complaining and work hard to realize your dream.
For me, as a student, my goal is making my grades great again. To achieve this goal, I should have my work done nice and well on time. For the future, I should work hard now to get a good job several years later. What I want to mainly talk about is discipline. Discipline means I need a good plan for study and I should stick to my plan. But now I am not doing so well, sometimes I don't hand in homework on time. So, I need more self-control. People who have no discipline cannot achieve big goal like getting into a good university or good college. I hope people who see this can be benefited and become closer to his/her dream. The key to success is action, this is easy to say but hard to do. I always make good plan for myself and don't stick to my plan. I really need more self-control to do what I planed to do. Today, I start reading a book called "Self Control", it's written by Kelly Mcgonigal, who is a professor of Stanford University. The book provides a 10 weeks plan for readers to build their self-control. I think this book will help me a lot. I have start taking action to make myself a better person.
I watched John Maxwell's video and I totally agree with him. My teachers are always telling me to set a goal for myself, this is reasonable. A goal helps us focus on the things we are doing to achieve the goal. People who have no idea about the purpose of his life are just living, they will never success. So I will set a goal for myself, and everyone should set a goal for life as well.
ARTICLE 1 - TIPS FOR COPING WITH STRESS Unusual levels of stress can negatively impact your ability to accomplish personal goals and maintain good health. Challenges such as resolving a family crisis or losing weight become more difficult when stressors mount. Consider the following tips to help you reduce your stress. Identify your stress triggers Situations that create stress — the condition we experience when demands exceed our ability to cope — are as unique as you are. Your genes, personality and life experiences all influence the stress response in your body. For example, one person may find it stressful to plan and host a holiday celebration for friends or family. Someone else might enjoy the creative aspects of hosting such an event and even find it gratifying. Other causes of stress are obvious — you lose your job or a parent dies. But don't overlook the daily hassles and demands that also contribute to your stress level — your daily commute or having too much work to do. Over time such persistent little things can accumulate and wreak more havoc on your health than do the sudden big things. That's why it's important to recognize all of the causes. Try one or all of these techniques: • Keep a stress journal. For one week, note which events and situations cause a negative physical, mental or emotional response. Record the day and time. Give a brief description of the situation. Where were you? Who was involved? What seemed to cause the stress? Also, describe your reaction. What were your physical symptoms? How did you feel? What did you say or do? Finally, on a scale of 1 (not very intense) to 5 (very intense), rate the intensity of your stress. • Make a list of all the demands on your time and energy for one week. Some examples may include your job, volunteer work, driving kids to after-school activities or caring for an elderly parent. Then, on a scale of 1 (not very intense) to 5 (very intense), rate the intensity of stress that each demand causes. Sit down and look at your stress recordings. Look closely at the events that you ranked as very stressful. Select one of them to work on using problem-solving techniques. Improve your time management skills Effective time management skills can help you identify goals, set priorities and minimize the stress in your life. Use these tips to improve your time management skills and lower your stress level. • Create realistic expectations and deadlines for yourself, and set regular progress reviews. • Throw away unimportant papers on your desk. Prepare a master list of tasks. • Throughout the day, scan your master list and work on tasks in priority order. • Use a planner. Store addresses and telephone numbers there. Copy tasks from your master list onto the page for the day on which you expect to do them. Evaluate and prioritize daily. • For especially important or difficult projects, reserve an interruption-free block of time behind closed doors. Overcome burnout If you dread going to work or feel burned out or stressed over a period of weeks, your situation could affect your professional and personal relationships and even your livelihood. Overwhelming frustration or indifference toward your job, persistent irritability, anger, sarcasm and a quickness to argue are indicators of a condition that needs to be dealt with. Here are strategies you can use: • Take care of yourself. Eat regular, balanced meals, including breakfast. Get adequate sleep and exercise. • Develop friendships at work and outside the office. Sharing unsettling feelings with people you trust is the first step toward resolving them. Minimize activities with "negative" friends who only reinforce bad feelings. • Take time off. Take a vacation or a long weekend. During the workday, take short breaks. • Set limits. When necessary, learn to say no in a friendly but firm manner. • Choose battles wisely. Don't rush to argue every time someone disagrees with you. Keep a cool head, and save your argument for things that really matter. Better yet, try not to argue at all. • Have an outlet. Read, enjoy a hobby, exercise or get involved in some other activity that is relaxing and gets your mind off work. • Seek help. If none of these things relieves your feelings of stress or burnout, ask a health care professional for advice. MY THOUGHTS The article brings me more understanding of how to coping with stress. Making a list of all the demands on my time and energy for one week is the best way that works to me. I started do this 2 weeks ago, I found that this is really a helpful way to coping with stress. Before I start do so, I often forgot to do some homework, so making a list is really helpful to me. ARTICLE 2 - HOW TO MAKE LASTING CHANGES IN YOUR LIFE “Wisely, and slow. They stumble that run fast.” – William Shakespeare Post written by Leo Babauta. Follow me on Twitter. How many times have you rushed into making changes in your life — a habit change, learning a new skill — only to have it flop? It’s not just the New Year’s Resolution Syndrome — it happens too often at all times of the year, that we run out of steam or get discouraged and give up. But here’s the secret, and I won’t charge you $29.95 for it: go slowly. This little change has more power than most people realize. It will help to learn any skill, from martial arts to art to computer activities. It will help form habits that are long-lasting. Slowing down will help you become more effective and ironically, help reach goals faster. If you’ve ever tried T’ai Chi (or Taijiquan), famous for its series of slow movements and poses, you’ve felt the power of slow. The slower you go in T’ai Chi, the better, for many reasons. One effect of this slowness is that you perfect the movements. And your body adapts, forming muscle memories that will last when (and if) you decide to speed up the movements. It’s as if your body and mind are forming a groove through continual repetition of the movements. If you move quickly, you’ll be erratic, and the groove will be much more difficult to form. If you move slowly, you can learn to move in exactly the same pattern, in a more precise way, and a groove will form. Once the groove is formed, it becomes easier. It’s now habit, unconscious memory, and automatic. This is habit formation, and usually it’s done without thought. When we drive home and our minds are on something else, but we make the right motions to get home anyway … this is habit, this is our minds and bodies going in a groove we’ve formed by doing these actions so many times before. The groove is best formed by going slow, at first. This applies to anything: exercise, eating healthy, creating art, becoming a patient parent, carpentry, reading. Slow is the secret to making it last. And no, that’s not meant to be dirty. Some of the reasons slow works, besides forming a groove: 1. Mindfulness. When you do something slowly, you can pay more attention to what you’re doing. I highly recommend that when you make changes, you do them mindfully, with full concentration. This increased awareness is necessary in the beginning, when you’re still forming the groove. Later, it’ll become automatic, but at first it’s anything but. You need to pay attention, and you can do this better when you do it slower. 2. You hold yourself back. Holding ourselves back is often considered a bad thing, but it’s not. It’s the best thing we can do, if we want changes to last. When we start a new change, often we are full of enthusiasm. But then we go all out and use up all of that enthusiasm, and run out of motivation or energy or get distracted by something else. But when you hold yourself back, you build up enthusiasm and keep it going for much longer — through that dreaded 2-3 week barrier when people often quit. So even if you want to run 3 miles at first, start with walking and then run-walking (in intervals), and only do a mile or so. You’ll want to do more, but stop yourself. Save that enthusiasm for next time. 3. You learn it right. Doing something slowly means you can learn to do it correctly, without being erratic, and later as it becomes second nature you’ll do it the right way. The importance is obvious in something like martial arts, but it’s also true in any physical activity. And every activity is physical (and mental). 4. Increased focus. When you do something slowly, you tend to do just one thing. It’s hard to multi-task and do something slowly — they don’t mix well. When you single-task, you can focus, instead of always being distracted. This leads to increased effectiveness. 5. Calm. Slow is calmer. Fast is hectic. Go slow to get rid of the chaos, and find peace. “Slow down, everyone. You’re moving too fast.” – Jack Johnson -- On mnmlist.com: The Definitive Guide to a Minimalist Mac Setup Also: You might know I announced I’m moving to San Francisco … if you’re a San Francisco resident, please help me by adding to my moving to S.F. wiki! MY THOUGHTS I really agree with the lecturer. “Wisely, and slow. They stumble that run fast.” Shows the key of making less mistakes. People should think more before making decisions, so that their will life will be easier.
I want to talk about three words, that are Self Control, Alertness and Initiative. I picked up these words from John R. Wooden's The Pyramid of Success. Self control means you do what you should do without motion influence. We are often influenced by motion unconsciously, so it's necessary for us to always remind ourselves to keep cool and being wise. Second of all, we should always think about what we should do and what we did, this is called alertness. Finding the weakness of ourselves is really helpful for us to do better next time. Last but not least, initiative is vital to us as well. We should be eager to learn new things. Although we fail sometime, we end up with get new knowledge or skills.
I found the quote of Jim Rohn online and strongly agree with his view.
Formal education will make you a living, this is truth. At school, teachers can only teach students knowledge, they cannot teach them how to live their life. Only self- education can make people a fortune. On the one hand, self-education means you make mistakes and you learn from them, so that you will what should you do when you have the same problem in the future. On the other hand, sometimes people's words can lead you to a deep thinking about yourself, you can learn a lot when you know what you are doing and what you want to do. Self-education is the most beneficial thing to people. Jim's words remind people doing self-education, which is really important for everyone. Now, Jim, a successful athlete. has left us. But his words will be passed forever. This year's Ryder Cup will be hold at Hazeltine National Golf Club, Chaska, Minnesota on September 29, 2016. The Ryder Cup is one of the world’s greatest sporting events, it's hold every two years. The Ryder Cup is the competition of the best golf players, only 24 person can participate in this game every year. The first Ryder Cup was hold in 1927, it has 89 yeas history.
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