I watched John Maxwell's video and I totally agree with him. My teachers are always telling me to set a goal for myself, this is reasonable. A goal helps us focus on the things we are doing to achieve the goal. People who have no idea about the purpose of his life are just living, they will never success. So I will set a goal for myself, and everyone should set a goal for life as well.
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ARTICLE 1 - TIPS FOR COPING WITH STRESS Unusual levels of stress can negatively impact your ability to accomplish personal goals and maintain good health. Challenges such as resolving a family crisis or losing weight become more difficult when stressors mount. Consider the following tips to help you reduce your stress. Identify your stress triggers Situations that create stress — the condition we experience when demands exceed our ability to cope — are as unique as you are. Your genes, personality and life experiences all influence the stress response in your body. For example, one person may find it stressful to plan and host a holiday celebration for friends or family. Someone else might enjoy the creative aspects of hosting such an event and even find it gratifying. Other causes of stress are obvious — you lose your job or a parent dies. But don't overlook the daily hassles and demands that also contribute to your stress level — your daily commute or having too much work to do. Over time such persistent little things can accumulate and wreak more havoc on your health than do the sudden big things. That's why it's important to recognize all of the causes. Try one or all of these techniques: • Keep a stress journal. For one week, note which events and situations cause a negative physical, mental or emotional response. Record the day and time. Give a brief description of the situation. Where were you? Who was involved? What seemed to cause the stress? Also, describe your reaction. What were your physical symptoms? How did you feel? What did you say or do? Finally, on a scale of 1 (not very intense) to 5 (very intense), rate the intensity of your stress. • Make a list of all the demands on your time and energy for one week. Some examples may include your job, volunteer work, driving kids to after-school activities or caring for an elderly parent. Then, on a scale of 1 (not very intense) to 5 (very intense), rate the intensity of stress that each demand causes. Sit down and look at your stress recordings. Look closely at the events that you ranked as very stressful. Select one of them to work on using problem-solving techniques. Improve your time management skills Effective time management skills can help you identify goals, set priorities and minimize the stress in your life. Use these tips to improve your time management skills and lower your stress level. • Create realistic expectations and deadlines for yourself, and set regular progress reviews. • Throw away unimportant papers on your desk. Prepare a master list of tasks. • Throughout the day, scan your master list and work on tasks in priority order. • Use a planner. Store addresses and telephone numbers there. Copy tasks from your master list onto the page for the day on which you expect to do them. Evaluate and prioritize daily. • For especially important or difficult projects, reserve an interruption-free block of time behind closed doors. Overcome burnout If you dread going to work or feel burned out or stressed over a period of weeks, your situation could affect your professional and personal relationships and even your livelihood. Overwhelming frustration or indifference toward your job, persistent irritability, anger, sarcasm and a quickness to argue are indicators of a condition that needs to be dealt with. Here are strategies you can use: • Take care of yourself. Eat regular, balanced meals, including breakfast. Get adequate sleep and exercise. • Develop friendships at work and outside the office. Sharing unsettling feelings with people you trust is the first step toward resolving them. Minimize activities with "negative" friends who only reinforce bad feelings. • Take time off. Take a vacation or a long weekend. During the workday, take short breaks. • Set limits. When necessary, learn to say no in a friendly but firm manner. • Choose battles wisely. Don't rush to argue every time someone disagrees with you. Keep a cool head, and save your argument for things that really matter. Better yet, try not to argue at all. • Have an outlet. Read, enjoy a hobby, exercise or get involved in some other activity that is relaxing and gets your mind off work. • Seek help. If none of these things relieves your feelings of stress or burnout, ask a health care professional for advice. MY THOUGHTS The article brings me more understanding of how to coping with stress. Making a list of all the demands on my time and energy for one week is the best way that works to me. I started do this 2 weeks ago, I found that this is really a helpful way to coping with stress. Before I start do so, I often forgot to do some homework, so making a list is really helpful to me. ARTICLE 2 - HOW TO MAKE LASTING CHANGES IN YOUR LIFE “Wisely, and slow. They stumble that run fast.” – William Shakespeare Post written by Leo Babauta. Follow me on Twitter. How many times have you rushed into making changes in your life — a habit change, learning a new skill — only to have it flop? It’s not just the New Year’s Resolution Syndrome — it happens too often at all times of the year, that we run out of steam or get discouraged and give up. But here’s the secret, and I won’t charge you $29.95 for it: go slowly. This little change has more power than most people realize. It will help to learn any skill, from martial arts to art to computer activities. It will help form habits that are long-lasting. Slowing down will help you become more effective and ironically, help reach goals faster. If you’ve ever tried T’ai Chi (or Taijiquan), famous for its series of slow movements and poses, you’ve felt the power of slow. The slower you go in T’ai Chi, the better, for many reasons. One effect of this slowness is that you perfect the movements. And your body adapts, forming muscle memories that will last when (and if) you decide to speed up the movements. It’s as if your body and mind are forming a groove through continual repetition of the movements. If you move quickly, you’ll be erratic, and the groove will be much more difficult to form. If you move slowly, you can learn to move in exactly the same pattern, in a more precise way, and a groove will form. Once the groove is formed, it becomes easier. It’s now habit, unconscious memory, and automatic. This is habit formation, and usually it’s done without thought. When we drive home and our minds are on something else, but we make the right motions to get home anyway … this is habit, this is our minds and bodies going in a groove we’ve formed by doing these actions so many times before. The groove is best formed by going slow, at first. This applies to anything: exercise, eating healthy, creating art, becoming a patient parent, carpentry, reading. Slow is the secret to making it last. And no, that’s not meant to be dirty. Some of the reasons slow works, besides forming a groove: 1. Mindfulness. When you do something slowly, you can pay more attention to what you’re doing. I highly recommend that when you make changes, you do them mindfully, with full concentration. This increased awareness is necessary in the beginning, when you’re still forming the groove. Later, it’ll become automatic, but at first it’s anything but. You need to pay attention, and you can do this better when you do it slower. 2. You hold yourself back. Holding ourselves back is often considered a bad thing, but it’s not. It’s the best thing we can do, if we want changes to last. When we start a new change, often we are full of enthusiasm. But then we go all out and use up all of that enthusiasm, and run out of motivation or energy or get distracted by something else. But when you hold yourself back, you build up enthusiasm and keep it going for much longer — through that dreaded 2-3 week barrier when people often quit. So even if you want to run 3 miles at first, start with walking and then run-walking (in intervals), and only do a mile or so. You’ll want to do more, but stop yourself. Save that enthusiasm for next time. 3. You learn it right. Doing something slowly means you can learn to do it correctly, without being erratic, and later as it becomes second nature you’ll do it the right way. The importance is obvious in something like martial arts, but it’s also true in any physical activity. And every activity is physical (and mental). 4. Increased focus. When you do something slowly, you tend to do just one thing. It’s hard to multi-task and do something slowly — they don’t mix well. When you single-task, you can focus, instead of always being distracted. This leads to increased effectiveness. 5. Calm. Slow is calmer. Fast is hectic. Go slow to get rid of the chaos, and find peace. “Slow down, everyone. You’re moving too fast.” – Jack Johnson -- On mnmlist.com: The Definitive Guide to a Minimalist Mac Setup Also: You might know I announced I’m moving to San Francisco … if you’re a San Francisco resident, please help me by adding to my moving to S.F. wiki! MY THOUGHTS I really agree with the lecturer. “Wisely, and slow. They stumble that run fast.” Shows the key of making less mistakes. People should think more before making decisions, so that their will life will be easier.
I want to talk about three words, that are Self Control, Alertness and Initiative. I picked up these words from John R. Wooden's The Pyramid of Success. Self control means you do what you should do without motion influence. We are often influenced by motion unconsciously, so it's necessary for us to always remind ourselves to keep cool and being wise. Second of all, we should always think about what we should do and what we did, this is called alertness. Finding the weakness of ourselves is really helpful for us to do better next time. Last but not least, initiative is vital to us as well. We should be eager to learn new things. Although we fail sometime, we end up with get new knowledge or skills.
I found the quote of Jim Rohn online and strongly agree with his view.
Formal education will make you a living, this is truth. At school, teachers can only teach students knowledge, they cannot teach them how to live their life. Only self- education can make people a fortune. On the one hand, self-education means you make mistakes and you learn from them, so that you will what should you do when you have the same problem in the future. On the other hand, sometimes people's words can lead you to a deep thinking about yourself, you can learn a lot when you know what you are doing and what you want to do. Self-education is the most beneficial thing to people. Jim's words remind people doing self-education, which is really important for everyone. Now, Jim, a successful athlete. has left us. But his words will be passed forever. |
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